This is just to crazy for me…..but he is so backwards I am confuse.
First of all, I would like to say emphatically that to all black women – I LOVE YOU!!!!. I respect you. I adore you. To me, there is nothing more powerful nor more sexy nor more divine than seeing you walk proudly in the sunlight of your blackness, your femininity, your sexuality, your sass, your strength, and your spirituality.
But sometimes, I want to taste a man…..
It’s not that I’m gay, homosexual, bisexual or any of those things. I don’t claim any of those titles and so if you ask me if I’m gay, homo, or bi – I’ll tell you “No”. I’m just a brother that knows what he likes. That’s all.
Now, if you ask me if I have sex with men, I’ll tell you “No”. Yes, I know that lying is wrong and God don’t like ugly. But, if I laid with you, and made sweet love to you, and then told you that sometimes I like to go inside a man….you wouldn’t want me. Our relationship would be over. And, more than likely, you would “warn” your friends about me. And so, I lie. Not because I am trying to deceive you, but because I just don’t think you need to know. All it will do is destroy what we have.
You see, honesty is not as simple as you think….
One day I’ll stop, I’ll settle down with my black queen. I can’t promise that I’ll completely stop experiencing men. There’s just something about it that draws me. But, I do know that I won’t do it nearly as much. Well, I don’t know that, but I don’t think I’ll do it as much.
To the woman I will one day marry : I promise to be a good husband, and a good father to our children, and a good grandfather to our children. I’ll love you, and protect you, and cherish you, and make you laugh, and dry your tears, try to give you the kind of home you have always wanted, and do my best to make your life as happy as it can be.
But sometimes, I’ll still want a man……
I know that fear more than you can possibly know. I am an openly bisexual black male that also thinks the same about black women. I also believe that you are a bisexual man, there is no shame in being who you are but be who you are don’t hid it out of fear. If a woman can’t accept embrace and love all of you then she doesn’t deserve you. There are woman that understand, accept and embrace you. I know this because I am lucky enough to be with a woman that does. You are special and deserve to be loved for who you are just as much as everyone else does. Remember that and just be honest with them more importantly be honest with yourself and who you truly are.
LET ME BE REAL WITH YOU ABOUT WHY MEN ARE ON THE DOWN LOW. Let me be the first to comment since no one else will. First let me say I used to be straight as tho I thought anyway even got married to a women for three years. Second to the women you need to be on your mans ass because most of them are creeping on the side saying their straight yeah right almost straight to jumping off a bridge in denial about who they really have the urge to be, oh I forgot “they’re hanging out with there boy or boy’s. Yeah right! that’s not all they’re doing even tho that may be there attention as well as the “straight mans excuse” to get away from you. They just make up excuses when they don’t want to be bothered or just want to be free. Even tho I don’t agree with the D.L method and feel that one should make up his mind on what side of the fence he’s going to be on and stay there I have to be real to everyone why this is happening. Third even tho the writer may not want to admit it. let me say it for him. HE’S BI SEXUAL HE JUST DON’T WANT TO ADMIT IT BECAUSE HE FEELS IT WOULD MAKE HIM LESS OF A MAN OR SAY THAT HE’S NOT TO COMFORT HIS OWN SANITY AS WELL AS NOT BEING JUDGED BY OTHERS FOR HIS ACTION OR WHO HE IS AS A PERSON!. There’s not beating around the bush when you state that even if you get tied down with a girl your not going to stop seeing dudes. Fourth let me say so called D.L dudes love a man/boy don’t matter when that man or boy can give him what he wants sexually and a lot of times without complaints being that the dude maybe submissive to that man or dominate that man. Let’s just face it ok. If a man or boy isn’t giving the ” Down Low ” dude what he wants he wouldn’t even be bothered with him and I think that they keep the women on the side just in-case that do happen not only do they keep the women because of this but as a trophy piece to fit in with society thinks they should be which is masculine trust me if we lived in a society of gay male on male acceptance more men would be out of the closet then you can ever imagine trust me on this issue. Fifth of all EVERY MAN WANTS HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO NO MATTER IF HE IS GAY OR SO CALLED STRAIGHT!!. Sixth of all remember birds of a feather flock together even if they have to creep sometime to do it. Last of all a man get really hooked when they know that they got more options to experiment sexually with a man including. Kissing, sucking,being sucked, anal intercourse ( being on the giving and receiving line to man is like being on a football field and women you know how men love to play sports ). Playing these games is like men playing a PS3 video game we have the option of turning it (men) on or turning (men) off and why would men pass the game up when they know they can get it for free one way or another without putting out money for it as a lot of women require them to do?. Guys love the feel of other guys because guys no what really turn other guys on just like lesbians feel the same way because they know more of what turns a women on without them guessing what turns a women on. Do you catch my point ? So don’t think that you did or am doing anything wrong. IT’S NOT YOU! it’s the individuals playing the game just remember that when playing baseball when the pitcher those the ball the batter don’t know which way it’s going to land so the batter (Down Low Dude)have that option to either let it go and strike out (with the gay dude) and stay with his women or hit the ball and run with it (with the gay dude). So don’t get mad at us if men preference leans more to playing sports then staying home ok it’s just where their heart and mind is.
Thanks Facebook user Joz’e Candypop Charles
I 100% agree with you Josh. I have a friend who was actually crying because he didn’t want to see his family and girlfriend leave him or his children and after I spoke with him he was honest with them and he didn’t loose anyone because they love him that much and he thanked me soo much mad me feel good that I was able to help someone out of that type of situation.
I am the admin… an I am so glad you guys are jumping in on this issue… it helps me understand what being a man who is bi sexual or on the down low is about and what it means… I was confused before but thanks for you guys in put on this post…thanks! ~Salone
I understand certain men like to be with a man and a woman, a man should be honest and tell the woman how he feels. Let her decide if she wants to share you with someone else. Communication and honest is one of the two biggest problems couples have in a relationship. Tell her and let her decide.